That point of view is pretty common, unfortunately. There are some scholarly articles located here that address common rape myths and victim blaming.
Here is another article that mentions how dangerous some misconceptions about rape can be, specifically perpetuation of the belief that a rapist will be some stranger in a dark alley.
Here is another list of rape myths and the truth, with facts.
One in Four provides some numbers and statistics for sexual assault as well.
Another thing to keep in mind is that not only do these lists of “safe” behaviors often mislead their audience about how and when sexual assault may occur, there is an implicit sense that someone else who is less informed might be raped and it would then, presumably, be their own fault for not knowing the proper behaviors or following them to the letter. Worse still, it implies an attitude of “get her, not me” and incessant policing of women.
This is unacceptable. Enforcing laundry lists of rules and regulations for potential victims does nothing to address the rape culture that keeps not only allowing this kind of behavior but encouraging it, while simultaneously shaming survivors who speak out or seek justice.
Living this way is like living in a house where the rafters are draped with live wires. We might stoop to avoid them all we want, avoiding certain rooms or certain conditions, but until we fix the problem at the source, nothing will change and the danger will still remain.
If we insist on keeping our focus on what women can do to avoid rape, we imply that the power to prevent rape rests with them. In reality, the only way to stop rape is to stop the rapist.